…that is the question.
I’ve deferred gratification for most of my life. Not because I necessarily WANTED to, but because that’s how Mr. Tattered wanted to do the finances, so I went along with it. It turned out to be a good idea. We lived way under our means for much of our married life, and now, us poor kids have a pretty comfortable life. Even with non financial stuff like chores, we worked around the house on Saturday, then played on Sunday.
So, deferring gratification has been a way of life until recently. Now that I’m “retired” there don’t seem to be any hard and fast rules, and I’m floundering a bit. But, I still have this feeling that work comes first, then the fun stuff.
I sit with lists and lists of stuff I NEED to do, and more lists of stuff I WANT to do, and I still feel like I should do the stuff on the NEED to do list before I can do stuff on the WANT to do list. When I play, I feel guilty.
The problem is, my list of need to do stuff is so long (and it grows by the day) so if I do nothing but the need to do stuff, I’ll never get to the want to do list. Or at least that’s the way it seems!
You’d think at my age I’d have figured out how to balance it, but I haven’t. If I allow myself to play first, that’s all I do! And before I know it, I’m so far behind I’m overwhelmed.
If I just work on my need to do list, I get cranky ‘cuz I’m not having any fun.
So do I hold off on the fun stuff and use it as a reward for when I do good on my “chores?” Or do I do one chore, then play?
How do you find your balance? How do you know when it’s okay to play?
This would be a lot easier if I had adult supervision. But I’ve pretty much let him know THAT’S not gunna happen. Heeheehee!